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Friday, October 17, 2025

Life, Perspective, and the Elusive Little Buddha

 There’s a Buddhist reflection that’s been rattling around in my head lately, and it goes something like this: You can seem like a millionaire to one person and a homeless person to the next. The ants think you’re a giant, and the trees don’t even notice you. You think your life is boring, but someone else might be striving for exactly what you have. Comparison is the thief of joy—so stay kind and keep loving life. It’s all just a big game of perspective.

And boy, did that open the floodgates of memory, and a few chuckles.

Uncle Leonard’s Verbal Tomato Garden Smackdown (Now with Extra Basil and Sass)
Let me tell you about the time I got spiritually body-slammed by Uncle Leonard Madalon—a man so wise and well-traveled, he made Indiana Jones look like a homebody. Uncle Leonard wasn’t just a globetrotter; he was a faith-fueled, tomato-growing, radicchio-loving humanitarian who could quote scripture, fix a leaky faucet, and tell you the best place to get goat curry in Kathmandu.

One sunny afternoon, we were out in the garden, tilling soil like good Italian peasants, when I made the mistake of complaining about my Catholic school educator's salary. I was mid-rant, probably comparing my paycheck to the cost of a decent bottle of Stag (his favorite beverage), when Uncle Leonard stopped, leaned on his hoe like it was a pulpit, and gave me the look—you know, the one that says, “You’re about to learn something whether you like it or not.”

“Shame on you,” he said, in a tone that was equal parts disappointed priest and mafia consigliere. “We live like kings compared to most of the world.”  And then came the lecture. Oh, the lecture. It was like being lovingly mugged by Mother Teresa and Gandhi at the same time. He talked about his time in Nepal, where his son Lenny was doing service work, and how people there lived with so little but had so much. Meanwhile, I was griping about not being able to afford a Happy Meal for my kids at McDonald’s.

By the end of it, I felt like I had been spiritually exfoliated. I nodded, humbled, and went back to planting radicchio with the quiet reverence of someone who a tomato-slinging prophet had just schooled.

The Cybersecurity Envy Chronicles
Then there’s my lifelong friend Michael. He worked in cybersecurity, yes, the kind of job that sounds like it comes with a cape and a secret identity. One day, he confessed he was jealous of how much I loved my job. He saw my social media posts: me dressed as a leprechaun, a pilgrim, Santa’s favorite elf, and of course, Dr. Seuss’ Cat in the Hat. He said, “I wish I could enjoy my career even a fraction as much as you do.”

What Michael didn’t realize was that I was also playing a role: actor, marketer, school spirit ambassador, and part-time mascot. Sure, I loved my job, but I also knew how to sell it. I was living the dream, or at least, the Instagram version of it. Behind every costume was an exhausted principal with glitter in his hair and glue on his shoes.

Chasing the Dream (and the Joneses)
Recently, I wrote a blog called “Enjoying a Slice or Sliver of Heaven?” and realized I wasn’t just keeping up with the Joneses—I was chasing something worse: The Dream. You know the one. The yacht. The mansion. The perfectly filtered life where everyone’s smiling and rippling with muscles. Real influencers.

It’s the unholy alliance of envy and illusion, convincing us that unless we’re blissed out 24/7, we’re failing. I’m done with that. I’m done catering to the thief of joy. I don’t need a yacht—I’ve got a 110-gallon fish tank I still haven’t repurposed. I don’t need a mansion—I’ve got a school office with a mini fridge and a Buddha statue. And I don’t need rippling muscles; I’ve got a radicchio garden and a penchant for gooey cafeteria pizza (and mushroom coffee!).

 Where’s Buddha?
And finally, we circle back to Buddha. You can’t drop a Buddhist quote without mentioning my office game: Where’s Buddha?

After Advent and the Elf on the Shelf craze, my students made tiny Buddha statues during Genius Hour using a 3D printer. One was turquoise, 3.5 inches tall, and became the star of a new game for Father Yates (aka Fr. 33-Buttons). Buddha traveled all over my office, on bookshelves, behind picture frames, and nestled amongst the coffee-stained mugs. Father never could quite spot him. It was like spiritual hide-and-seek meets office décor.

To this day, that little Buddha sits on my shelf, reminding me to stay humble, strive for enlightenment, and laugh at the absurdity of it all. He’s my tiny turquoise guru, silently judging me when I reach for my extra cup of coffee or forget to carry out a scheduled fire drill.

Final Thoughts: Life is weird, beautiful, and messy, all at the same time. And totally dependent on how you look at it. Whether you’re the ant, the tree, the millionaire, or the elf on the shelf, keep loving life. And if you ever feel lost, ask yourself: Where’s Buddha?



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