Let’s slow this down and look at it cleanly. Voice assistants like Siri and Gemini don’t feel unsettling because they listen. They feel unsettling because they anticipate.
They surface reminders that we don’t explicitly ask for, suggestions that match a mood you hadn’t named, prompts aligned with half‑formed thoughts, and that’s the uncomfortable edge:
Sometimes they seem to know us before we finish knowing ourselves. That isn’t magic. It’s pattern recognition at scale. This isn’t mind-reading, it’s mirror-holding. These AI systems don’t understand us. They understand:
– what people like you tend to do next
– what you pause on
– what you scroll past slowly
– what time of day you’re most suggestible
They’re not discovering your identity. They’re predicting your behavior. When accurate enough, it feels like intimacy. Kind of like the soulmate who accurately completes your sentences, if you're into that!
I have to ask, is this kidnapping individuality? There’s an honest tension here.
On one side:
Algorithms nudge, not command.
They optimize for engagement, convenience, and efficiency.
They reflect patterns we already express.
On the other side:
Repeated nudges become habits.
Habits quietly shape identity.
Identity, left unexamined, becomes default.
The risk isn’t that AI steals your individuality. The risk is that it offers you a frictionless version of yourself—and you stop questioning whether that version is who you want to be.
We used to ask tools questions. Now, tools ask us silently: Are you still this kind of person? Do you want more of what you wanted yesterday? Let's keep going in this direction. Most of the time, we respond by not noticing.
You can notice when a suggestion feels helpful vs. habitual. Pause before auto‑scrolling. Ask, “Is this feeding me or is it just familiar?” That pause is agency. Instead of asking: Is AI watching me? Try asking: Am I watching myself? Because the moment you notice influence, it loses its invisibility. And invisible forces only have power when we never name them.
The most human act left to us may not be choosing faster, but choosing more slowly. Not rejecting tools. Not fearing intelligence. Just refusing to let convenience decide who we become.
I am so glad I don't have Siri or Alexia or .... AI on a google search is quick but I feel the need to then go to actual sites, reputable ones, to confirm. AI scares me in several ways -- it no longer causes us to think -- it replaces human debate / conversation -- people take it as THE truth when in reality ???
ReplyDeleteMary, like I said, we can't put the genie back in the bottle. But we can be aware of the influence that the genie, Alexa, or Siri is having upon us. We need to keep the human element in charge. Happy New Year my friend!
DeleteSame to you and Tina.
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